Explain the process creating and affective list of tasks to accomplish a goal

first you should have a goal you want to accomplish

Then you should see what things you should change or do to achieve this goal. You should stick to the things you want to change and set a time or date to accomplish this goal. This date will  make you work harder and not slack of.

just be there for her.

explanation:

not necessarily literally but figuratively. also don't say things like "i understand how you feel", because even though you are trying to , you clearly don't understand how she feels (i'm gonna go out on a limb here and assume you've never had a heart attack). also just let her rest. that is one of the best things for you to do.