What is the meaning of “It’s like everyone tells a story about themselves inside their own head. Always. All the time. the story makes you what you are. We build ourselves out of that story.”

In chapter 5, ekwefi is called "a woman who had suffered a great deal and in chapter 6, when discussing ezinma with chielo, she states, '"i pray she stays." speculate what may have been an event that caused suffering in ekwefi's past.