When can the way we look at things lead to growth, and when could they hold us back?

The way we look at things help us grow because we understand how we managed it in the beginning. Being able to manage it and control everything is a type of growth, but through that growth, there will be a lot of failures, but without those failures, you won't be able to notice the mistakes you've been making. So don't be scared of making mistakes, take them in as a good thing since you will learn from them and not repeat them.

you can change by someone having a negative opinon of you in many ways for example thi can lead to depression and taking of ones life also known as sucide this effects there self esteem and ego in a negative way making them feel sad depressed and stressed causing them to act gloomy and sad if this continuses this can lead to self harm or much worse things.

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