Pronouns that introduce adjective clauses and relate to words or ideas which precede them are called
antecedents
personal pronouns
relative pronouns

honestly you should not write it the word placement is not right and this does not sound right so i think you should write it this way. the life lessons i refused to learn, taught me the hard way this sounds way better you should try it! hope this is very !

i may be wrong but i think your answer is flashback