Ileft my best friend last week bc she was toxic, self-centered and but, figured out she genuinely didn’t know she was toxic. she never knew she ruined my life. today, i found out she wants to commit su** because of ruining my life as well as others. i reached out to her, and she told me she wants to killl herself because she keeps ruining lives and no one wants her. and she told me i don’t know how to change. i want to change. so, is their any advice i should give her or anything?

I am really sorry to hear about this. I have struggled a lot with friends being toxic. For me, one thing that I have found to be helpful is to just listen. People sometimes want to be reassured, but first, let her talk. Once she gets what she needs to say out, she may be willing to apply and to also listen to what it is that you have to say. If she is seriously considering ending her life in the near future, it is best to physically go and be with her in order to keep her preoccupied. If being with her physically is not possible, keep her on the phone. Remember that a good friend will tell a secret to save a life even if it may ruin a friendship. Also, make sure that in re-involving yourself in her life, you are not causing damage to your own. If it gets to stressful or scary, ALWAYS seek help from someone who is trained in your area. You can show her that you care, but in order for you to help her, you also need to be in the right state of mind. If involving yourself too deeply causes you to be stressed, you are not in the right state of mind, and you will really only be hurting yourself. Make sure that you take care of yourself as well. I am going to keep both you and your friend in my prayers.

I hope that this helped.

you are who you are and no one can change that about you. for one being lesbian is not a crime and two you are still great no matter who you like. the people that you like does not effect who you are as a person. as for why you are like that no one can answer. the only explanation i can give you is that it was who you were meant to be.