1) which of the following behaviors is/are considered abusive?
a) keeping someone away from his or her friends
b) calling someone names
c) controlling what someone wears
d) all of the above

2) i think a friend of mine is abusing his girlfriend. what should i do first ?
a) make an appointment for him to meet with the school counselor
b) wait to see if there is a pattern of abuse before doing anything
c) talk with him privately about what i've seen or heard and what needs to change.
d) offer to meet with his girlfriend and him to work things out.

3) which of the following times in an abusive relationship is the most dangerous for a target?
a) when he or she begins the relationship
b) when he or she accepts the abuser's first apology
c) when he or she confronts the abuser
d) when he or she leaves the relationship

4) i think my friend kiki might be in a abusive relationship with her boyfriend damon. what should i do first?
a) talk to her about it without criticizing her for staying in the relationship
b) take her shopping to get her mind off of the abusive relationship
c) offer to have my older brother threaten her boyfriend
d) mind my own business until she brings it up

5) which of the following statements about teen dating abuse is not true ?
a) abuse includes trying to manipulate or control a persons feelings or behavior
b) abuse can occur in e-mails, instant messages, text messages , and voicemails
c) physical abuse has to leave a mark or a bruise
d) sexual abuse includes any kind of unwanted advances

for questions 6-8 read the scenario. identify what phase of abuse is occurring using the letters below.

t tension building
e explosion
h honeymoon

6) ashley has been in an abusive relationship with dan for over a year. on mothers day , he refused to allow her to spend time with her family. ashley tried to explain that is was just for one day, but dan argued that if ashley loved him, she would stay at his house with him. when ashley attempted to leave, dan blocked the doorway and grabbed her wrists to restrain her.

7) tyrone and jena have just started dating. tyrone has been calling jena's cell phone all night. she didn't answer since she was at a movie with her friends. after the movie , jena calls tyrone back . he accuses her of ignoring his phone callings and lying to him about where she is. jena attempts to explain why she didn't answer the phone, but tyrone will not listen to her. as his voice gets louder, jena walks away from her friends so that they will not hear tyrone yelling.

8) marcus and ben have been dating for a few months. ben drinks heavily whenever they are together. he becomes jealous if marcus talks to anyone else, even mutual friends. on more than one occasion, ben has shoved , hit and thrown things at marcus in a jealous rage. he always apologizes and swears that its the alcohol talking and not him. he promises that it will never happen again.

Answer 1: The correct answer is D) all of the above

An abusive relationship refers to one in which a person abuses his or position in a relationship. A person might abuse someone by: physically harming them or beating them, emotionally blackmailing, taunting or threatening them, or by controlling how they live their lives- forbidding them from meeting their friends, controlling what clothes they wear, etc.

Answer 2: The correct answer is C) talk with him privately about what I've seen or heard and what needs to change

In this situation, it is best to approach your friend and talk to him privately about your observations and why you think he might be abusing his girlfriend. Perhaps you talking to him will be an eye-opener for him, and he will change his subsequent behavior and actions towards his girlfriend. On the other hand, he might deny that he has been abusive towards his girlfriend. However, regardless of how your friend reacts, you should do your part by calling him out on his potentially abusive behavior. 

Answer 3: The correct answer is B) when he or she accepts the abuser's first apology

When someone is abusive towards you and you forgive him/her for it, what you are basically suggesting to the abuser is that he/she can get away with his or her abusive behavior. This is when your relationship with an abusive person gets the most dangerous- because he/she believes that he/she can engage in abusive behavior again in the future, because you will forgive him or her and let him or her get away scot free. In other words, once you forgive someone who has abused you, it increases the chances of him/her abusing you again.

Answer 4: The correct answer is  A) Talk to her about it without criticizing her for staying in the relationship

Victims of abuse often keep things to themselves and do not confide i close or family members about the abuse they are experiencing. This could be the case for reasons including: shame, denial or fear that their abuser will find out that they have spoken out about the situation. Therefore, when you suspect that your friend might be in an abusive relationship, you should gently talk to her about, and  avoid criticizing her for staying in the relationship. 

Answer 5: The correct answer is: C) Physical abuse has to leave a mark or a bruise

This is necessarily not true. Some actions that involve physically hurting someone do not always have to leave a mark or bruise to count as physical abuse. The following count as physical abuse, but might not necessarily leave a mark or bruise: slapping someone, pulling their hair, smacking them, choking them, shoving them, etc. 

Answer 6: The correct answer is E- Explosion 

During this stage of abuse, the abuser has violent outbursts, where he or she might get physically aggressive and assault the target. In this instance, when Dan grabs Ashely's wrists to restrain here, he is in the explosion phase of abuse since his actions have started to get physical, and are very likely to progress to more serious forms of physical assault. 

Answer 7: The correct answer is T- tension building

During the tension building stage of abuse, an abuser starts becoming aggravated and triggered to engage in some type of abuse towards the target. In this instance, when Tyrone accuses Jenna of ignoring his phone calls and lying to him about where she is, and then proceeds to yell at Jenna, he is getting progressively angrier at Jena, and the tension is building, which might push him to the explosion stage.

Answer 8: The correct answer is H honeymoon

During the honeymoon phase of abuse, the abuser typically apologizes and shows remorse for his or her actions, and the victim decides to forgive the abuser. However, in several cases, the abuser reverts back to abusive behavior, and the chain of abuse continues. In this instance, Ben apologizes, but still ends up abusing Marcus several times, thus, demonstrating the honeymoon phase of abuse.

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