Now most people that will tell you not to have sex until marriage probably haven’t had a lot of sex outside of marriage, and will give you some answer like because it’s a sin or you are breaking a commandment or something like that might not make a whole lot of sense to you. I on the other hand have had A LOT of sex outside of marriage and I’m here to explain to you very practically why you should wait to have sex until marriage, so practically in fact that you won’t even be able to dispute me because you’ll know that I’m right. Whether you choose to do it, well that’s up to you. I can’t do your push ups for you I can only show you the way. So let’s get started shall we?
#10: Sex masks problems: When you’re having sex in a relationship what’s the point in really evaluating it? Why would you? You’re giving each other what you need. You might wonder sometimes if you’re in love or if you could spend the rest of your life with this person but you never really forced to look deeply. However when you’re not having sex you are forced to really examine it. Let me give you an example. My last relationship I was having sex with my girlfriend and I wasn’t sure if we were really in love or built to last I think I said. So I cut it off in the middle of it. And guess what, all the real issues came right up to the surface. Because when you’re not having sex it’s like: well I want to have sex again, and I know you want to have sex again, and if we’re REALLY in love, then let’s get married. But if we’re not, let’s stop wasting each other’s time. Because you could waste years of each other’s lives, just having sex.
#9: Marriage allows you to evaluate your real feelings: So you start talking about no sex before marriage and everyone freaks out because it sounds extreme. But if I were to say no sex before love that sounds more reasonable right? Something you can get your head around. Well the next question would be how do you know if you’re in love? My answer would be you know if you’re in love because you’re willing to marry the person to have sex with them. Because no one is going to marry someone just to sleep with them. There’s a verse in the bible that reads the heart is deceitful above all things and it basically it tells us that our hearts will deceive us into believing something that’s not true so we give our flesh what it wants. Imagine you’re dating someone and you say to them I’m in love with you let’s have sex. And they say back to you I love you too, but let’s get married first, you would be like whoa, hold up let me think about this right? That’s a whole different conversation because we know marriage is hard to get out of. And that’s what the purpose of marriage was always for, to allow us to evaluate our real feelings to see if we were really in love so we didn’t get stuck with someone that we weren’t in love with.
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