Are most abusers

Narcissists? Were they abused themselves

Not every abuser has a narcissistic personality disorder. Abuse occurs in many different ways and every type, degree, and combination of abuse comes with its own unique spectrum.

People with NPD or narcissistic tendencies sometimes show a pattern of manipulative, controlling behavior that involves both verbal abuse and emotional manipulation. This all falls under the umbrella of narcissistic abuse

Explanation:

there are men and women, some choose to be both or change their gender. often times those people go by "other". those who change their gender are known as "transgender"