According to gottman, allows each partner to deny responsibility for the problems that are causing conflict.

I believe the answer is: criticism

By making criticism, we could expose our partner on his/her weaknesses and focusing on that weakness to evoke a certain negative emotion. By doing this, the focus of their discussion could be strayed from our own weakness/insecurities and could be used to avoid responsibility when we're in a fight with our partner.

"[a]ll language is verbal, but only speech is oral." (henry hitchings, the language wars: a history of proper english.farrar, straus and giroux, 2011) oral communication is speech, conversation.verbal ability is one's skill with words, and the verbal section of the sat, the college entrance examination, tests a high school student's knowledge of written language. .

nigger, that word was originated for white folks   to keep black people under

and when black people use it, they know that's just how they greet each other

and when white folks use it, they know there's a double meaning under