Why is conflict confrontation not healthy for sustaining positive relationships?​

Well, for one thing the word “confrontation” can have multiple meanings, and for many people? Confrontation is really frightening. If someone is from an abusive background, and again depending upon what meaning this takes to both parties, it can be explosive.

To consider too, is this a tool being used to control someone? Overpower someone? Because it wouldn’t fly with me. NOPE. It has a ring of authority to it, and I don’t even like cops.

I say this so that maybe this gets a little clearer. As a clinician - the meaning of confrontation in a therapeutic setting means that you merely hold up a mirror in front of your client - because they are being incongruent between their behavior and thinking - or even simply in their beliefs, but the fact of the matter is, they’re completely blind to their disorganized awareness. So, I would merely make them aware suddenly and as bluntly as I know how - “look do you see this”, “ this is what you’re doing, do you know this?” Most generally there’s a shock of some sorts because it confronts their reality of themselves. No one wants to be a walking contradiction.

Some people can’t take positive feedback even. Know your partner, and find out about their past. This can make or break a relationship.