Imagine you sit down to dinner with your long-time friend and she tells you she is having jealousy issues in her marriage. her husband, whom you get along with, is upset that she has gotten to be too close with a male coworker, and he is interpreting their friendly banter as flirting. what advice might you give to your friend to her alleviate the situation?

The advice might be to reassure her partner of her love. Jealousy usually comes not from outside, but from within ourselves and our insecurities.

EXPLANATION

Jealousy can sometimes be a major problem in a relationship. Marital therapists have stated that romantic jealousy placed third as the most serious problems that a marriage can have. Jealousy is not a sign of love, but it is motivated by triggers, such as low self-esteem, neuroticism, insecurity, possessiveness, dependency on the partner, feeling inadequacy in a relationship, and having an anxious attachment style.

Thus, the key to reducing jealousy responses of your spouses is to make them feel more secure. You can make your partner feel more securely attached by giving them support and the act of services. These things can make your partner less severely to a jealousy-inducing situation. Jealousy is the act that is stimulated from one own’s insecurity, and it is not an act of love they have for their partner.

If you have a jealous partner, then it might be better for you to reassure them, then just be angry with them because of their jealousy. If you respond to your jealous partner with reassuring them of your love and interest towards them, then you may have a more stable relationship.  

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KEYWORD: jealous, partner, advice

Subject: Social Studies

Class: College

Subchapter: Jealousy