Gilles, age 50, tells his brother, "i'd like to maintain my physical health and work on getting emotionally stronger. i want to be a good friend and a role model to my nephews and nieces. i don't want to be that guy who never comes to family get-togethers because he is too busy working. i want to be successful in my career, but not at the expense of my family. of course, i want to find my own special partner, but if i don't, i know i'll always have you and the kids." gilles is discussing his